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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 15, 2014 19:44:28 GMT -5
Well I don't think we can blame him for responding. I don't think it will stop either if it goes unchecked. That just gives them free reign to keep bullying with no accountability for their actions. There really is no answer for it as long as these online sites let people bully with no repercussions.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2014 20:41:31 GMT -5
Yeah I know. You naturally want to defend the things you love and you don't want to read/hear bad things about those close to you. But at the same time this is Ian, one person, versus many haters. Sure he'll also have his true fans also helping to keep things in perspective, but why feed into the hate at all?
I don't feel Ian would come off as a wimp or some punk just because he doesn't give his haters the time of day. No one would blame him for taking precautions to safeguard his own well-being from the haters. I'm not saying that Ian is not allowed to defend himself from the hate aimed towards his relationship, but honestly these haters won't stop no matter what he says behind text. I rather not let these haters get the satisfaction of knowing that they struck a nerve and got Ian to spend time responding to them, taking time from Ian's busy schedule.
Ian shouldn't have to feel as if he needs to put anyone in their place. These are immature brats who obviously have nothing better to do all day. Seeing him going back and forth with these guys is just in poor taste. I rather Ian stuck to promoting what he loves instead of reading hateful comments that will hurt him, coming in by the boatload.
That's just how I feel on the matter. I obviously can't speak for Ian and how he really feels overall. I could be wrong and he feels better when he does get to give these haters the what for along with the kind words of his fans at his side. Whatever he chooses to do is up to him. As long as things with these haters don't get even nastier than they already are.
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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 15, 2014 23:41:19 GMT -5
I kind of like that he sticks up for her. We don't know if those words are hurting her and making her sad and I think, knowing Ian, that he doesn't understand how anyone could be so hateful, so I totally get why he is responding. His eternal optimism makes him believe that he can make a difference on this as well and get through to the haters but I kind of doubt it. I don't want him to ever stop believing he can, though.
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Post by Sweetluv4DE on Sept 15, 2014 23:52:20 GMT -5
Good for him! If he wasn't a celeb and let's say this was happening at work school or in his family he would address it. So why can't he address it now? He has every right in my own opinion to tell those a-holes off! I'm so sick of them. I'm all for Ian putting them in their place. I'm so pissed over it and I'm so proud of Ian. If he was my man he'd be awarded for days. Just saying. He doesn't need and he doesn't have to address it but kudos that he does bc it's getting out of hand!
It must really hurt when they only love you because your with Nina. Then she moves on with how many guys and nada! Yet he moves on with niki and it's WWIII it's ludacris.
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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 16, 2014 0:02:51 GMT -5
Good for him! If he wasn't a celeb and let's say this was happening at work school or in his family he would address it. So why can't he address it now? He has every right in my own opinion to tell those a-holes off! I'm so sick of them. I'm all for Ian putting them in their place. I'm so pissed over it and I'm so proud of Ian. If he was my man he'd be awarded for days. Just saying. He doesn't need and he doesn't have to address it but kudos that he does bc it's getting out of hand! It must really hurt when they only love you because your with Nina. Then she moves on with how many guys and nada! Yet he moves on with niki and it's WWIII it's ludacris. No he was supposed to wait for her, like a martyr. Yes, he loved Nina and yes he took the time to get over her but now he's over her and he's moved on. There is no going back now. Like he said, "This isn't about Nina." Now Nina can party her little heart out and she seems happy to do so and her fans just need to get the f*** over it.
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Post by nhoa on Sept 17, 2014 8:33:01 GMT -5
Obviously, any individual is entitled to do whatever he sees convenient in this kind of case. Can he address it? Of course he can, it is his life and his girlfriend after all. I guess it's a very difficult situation to deal with but I do feel responding to the haters is counterproductive. By answering to them, he's giving them more visibility. I'm more of a "let them talk" kind of girl. In any case, they'll stop hating at some point!
I don't get the whole psychosis about Nian. They were together and they broke up. She wanted to be young and free, she is and she seems fine with it. He got over it after a while and is happy. Where the hell is the matter? I mean, people have to learn to separate reality from fiction. Those two are persons, not fictional characters who are going to get together in the end just to make you happy. What age are they, really?
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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 18, 2014 10:12:02 GMT -5
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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 18, 2014 10:16:05 GMT -5
And I'm kind of sad that Ian and Nikki have not been spotted together now since the latest 'fan' tongue lashing he doled out. I hope that doesn't mean he has decided we don't deserve to see his happiness because let's face it, if he doesn't want to be seen he won't be seen except on rare occasions. He was trying to be open about it and hoped we'd be happy for him but the jerks in the Nian fandom may have ruined that for us. I hope not! He was spotted with Nikki at the airport by a fan in a supposed 10 minute make out as they went their separate ways this past week, but sadly no pictures.
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Post by Sweetluv4DE on Sept 18, 2014 12:01:19 GMT -5
I hate Derek but if Nina wants him then I hope they are happy! The thing that bugged me about Nina after the breakup was the constant flirting, revolving door of guys and in your face she was being to fans and I'm sure Ian too. It was tacky and tasteless to me but I'm good with Nina. She's calmed down and has been pretty ladylike with a make out shesh here and there but nothing so boldly hoochie-fide! If Nina wants to spark Nerek up again she has every right to and shouldn't get bashed by Ian fans and esp not her Doberics or Nians! Leave her alone! Also Ian never acted like a bachelor out to get wild and get some! He had a few pics with fans and friends. This is the first open he's been about a girl and I adore him for it!
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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 18, 2014 13:01:39 GMT -5
Actually he was not so much hiding his relationships except the ones in which he also worked with them ie: Nina and Maggie. When he said he dated Maggie for two years I think all his fans were pretty surprised by that. Nobody thought it was two years! But they were working together...I think that's the difference there. Since the break up, it seems he dated some but never found the right girl for him until now it seems, where he is happy enough with her to be open about it and I hope that doesn't change now due to how rude some people are being about it. I mean a year and a half later I think he deserves some happiness and Nina as well, if she finds someone, even Derek, that makes her happy. Why not? Nian is over with and everyone needs to move on from that, accept it, stop being afraid it will ruin Delena cause frankly the damage would already be done if it was going to happen and the fans are the real problem now, not Ian and Nina themselves. I agree that Nina's behavior post breakup really sucked as far as how 'in your face' she was being and it seemed so publically hurtful to Ian. But Ian handled it with grace and dignity and showed us what a great person he is even when he could have been really nasty back. Instead he was always kind to her and about her. It did make me not like Nina and I haven't been able to get past that but I tell myself that she felt hurt too by the breakup and that was her way of dealing with it, although I definitely think it was the wrong way. But she's young and she's human and young humans tend to make rash decisions and mistakes so I can give her that. At any rate I don't let it affect how I feel about Delena. They seem to be over it so I'm over it.
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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 18, 2014 13:15:06 GMT -5
I think some of these young fans have just never had a relationship that they thought was perfect and last forever blow up in their face so for them Nian was their first love...and they haven't gotten over it yet, if that makes any sense. I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt here that they aren't complete loons but just young and inexperienced with love. I'm being far too generous today, it seems...lol
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Post by Charlotte on Sept 18, 2014 14:04:42 GMT -5
Simultaneously thinking YES if it shuts up the Nians and Yuck. Just yuck
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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 18, 2014 14:08:42 GMT -5
Simultaneously thinking YES if it shuts up the Nians and Yuck. Just yuck I will avoid said stories like the plague cause yeah, yuck, and if he did indeed play a part in their break up as was implied I can never really like the guy. The only good part about it is hopefully it will send the Nians into another tizzy and off Somereed so they can have some peace. Either that or the Nians heads will just all explode and everyone will get some peace...lol
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Post by Doppelgänger on Sept 22, 2014 12:27:54 GMT -5
Ian and Nikki this past Saturday. What a goof!:
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Post by beangelic1000 on Sept 22, 2014 23:08:12 GMT -5
Although, I keep up with all things Ian, I only ever have to worry about one aspect of his life and that is fans negative reations to any woman that enters into his life based on their choices or critera, and I have good reason to worry, because on my twitter timeline I have observed that the newest real life ship the Somereeds are starting to sound like a version 2 of Nians. They have moved on, but now it is almost like Sommereed has become for them the new Nian, which of course brings them into conflict with the hard core Nians who refuse to move on.
Some of the Somerreeds fans are now talking about marriage and babies in much the same fashion that the Nian fanbase used to do back in the day when Ian and Nina were dating. For one it is much too soon and for another, just as we look at the positives in all relationships we should also prepare ourselves for the negatives in relationshps (i.e, they don't work out). What Ian stated in an interveiw is right in regards to relationships, some people come into your life for a time and then leave. Basicialy, what he was trying to convey was that all relationships have time limits and when they are reached we should move on. I believe Ian thought what he had with Nina was for the long haul but it didn't work out that way. I'm sure that he has had other relationships after the break up. But, Nikki has been the more upfront and open relationship he has had so far, so I'm not worried about Ian because he is happy with all things in his life right now, from his foundation to TVD and Nikki.
My worry is Somereeds, if things do not work out between Ian and Nikki (relationship duration unknown, since no one can predict the outcome of any relationship) and they go their seperate ways, will Ian be allowed to move on? can Somereeds move on or will they too become like the Nians?
I was happy when Ian was with Nina, but when it was confirmed that they had broken up I moved on, I am also prepared to do the same if things do not work out with Ian and Nikki, I will move on. Because, like I've repeated like a mantra is the fact it is Ian's happiness that is important, and the one underlaying problem is some fans inability to move on if things do now work out. It is inevitable if things do not work out between Ian and Nikki that he will move on, which means a new relationship, a new lady. In the event that this does happen, does it have to mean the new lady in his life has to be subjected to such negativity, because, certain fans do not know how to move on......
I support Ian 100% in any relationship that he enters into, that means I support his choices, and do not hate on his girlfriends in the fashion the Nians did when they thought he was with Ana, and then with Alexis Knapp, and now with Nikki Reed.
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